Dear Expectant Mother,
He is Chris and she is Tobi, and yes people get the two of us confused! We are hoping to become adoptive parents and expand our family by meeting an expectant mother who is open to the idea of allowing us to raise and give her child all the love, affection, and attention that we possibly can. Children have always been a huge part of our lives so being blessed with another child would mean the world to us! We are looking forward to getting to know you and are here to help you through this in any way we can.
We met at the ripe old age of 15 and 16, we dated all through our high school years and all we ever wanted to do was get married and start a family. After Chris graduated, we were married and that next year our first son Alex was born. His brother Owen and sister Hanna would follow shortly thereafter and by the ages of 24 and 25 we had a full house and hearts! Of course, they did not stay babies for long, so after they moved into homes of their own, we began fostering children from birth to age 6. We have had twin infant boys, sibling groups of 2 and 3, and recently welcomed another little boy into our home. Fostering is extremely rewarding, and we love having the children in our home, but when they leave we are heartbroken, which is what lead us to adoption!
Our home and community:
We have lived in the same small town since a year after we were married and have settled into a Victorian house that we absolutely love. It has all the old-world charm that comes along with the Victorian era.
The backyard is completely fenced in for our 2 small dogs as well as the children that come and go in our home. With the downtown, city parks, and schools all close to home, and exceedingly small class sizes in the schools, the kids get plenty of one-on-one attention and opportunities for extracurricular activities. All our parents, biological children, and most of our extended family live close by and we have a huge support network wrapped up in a small community; life is good!
Meet Tobi (written by Chris):
Tobi has been my best friend and by my side since I was 16 years old. She is one of the most caring and loving people you could ever meet. She is selfless and always puts her family ahead of herself. She has been a babysitter, dental assistant, massage therapist, mother to our children and continuing foster mother. She has always helped me with any project or home renovation that I have ever done, working right alongside me, helping in any way while keeping an open mind about what might come next in life. Tobi enjoys playing the piano which she has done since she was a small child. She is also very artistic and can draw, paint, or sketch just about anything with amazing accuracy. She stayed home with all 3 of our biological children while they were young and continues to do so with our foster children. We plan to continue fostering through this process, and possibly even after we adopt, but Tobi is really excited about being a full-time mother again, even though it is far from a new concept to her.
Meet Chris (written by Tobi):
I married my high school sweetheart when Chris and I got married, and all these years later here we are living out our dreams together. I would describe Chris as a go getter who is enthusiastic and passionate about all that he does in life. He is a wonderful husband, father, foster dad, friend, and co-worker, a real outgoing people person. He can build just about anything and is very handy. Chris has been misconstrued, and others have falsely been intimidated by his appearance with his bald head and tattoos, but he has got to be one of the biggest teddy bears! Anyone who has gotten to know him would say the same. He works in construction as a superintendent and sells real estate. Chris really enjoys any outdoor activity and is big into fitness and running. Most of all, he is just an all-around great dad to our biological children, father figure to our foster children, and role model to our nieces and nephews; and he simply cannot wait to be a father to a newborn again and have another baby in our house to love!
Our oldest son Alex (28), and his younger brother Owen (26), bought a house down the street together a couple of years ago. Owen’s fiancé Gabbie also lives with them, and she and Owen will be married next June. Alex likes to play board games; like his mother, he is very good at art and is an avid coin collector. He has a bachelor’s degree in Graphic Communications but is a 3rd year Electrical Apprentice in the local Electrician’s Union. Owen loves his online gaming and outdoor activities. He is a journeyman carpenter and works for Chris at the same company doing carpentry work. Our youngest Hanna (21) also bought herself a house a few blocks away from us. She enjoys baking, sewing and plants. She has an associate degree in horticulture and works at a local greenhouse facility. Our biological children are supportive of our adoption journey and are excited to have another sibling join the family!
Our commitment to you:
As you have read, children have always played a huge role in our lives. Not having them in our home feels empty, which is why we love to foster. Adoption brings the permanence that we are truly looking for and having another child in our lives would mean the world to us. We are committed to providing a safe, secure environment for your child to be welcomed into. We promise to love, nurture, and give your child everything that he/she could possibly ever need or want in life. Our biological children, parents, and extended family cannot wait to meet the newest member of the family and welcome them into their lives
. We both have incredibly open minds about this process and cannot wait to welcome both you and your child into our lives!
If you would like to learn more about us, please feel free to contact us directly by emailing email@example.com. You can also contact our adoption counselor, La’Shea Gibson, by texting (708-320-8630), calling (800-860-1005), or e-mail (Lashea.firstname.lastname@example.org).
Tobi and Chris